Couple Breaking Up

Why Your Ex Hasn’t Begged You To Take Him Back

So your boyfriend dumped you.  He gave you some lame reason that doesn’t really make much sense.  You want him back, but you want him to grovel and beg and realize the huge mistake he made by leaving.  You want to see him squirm and want him to perform some grand gesture to win you back.

The only problem is, he’s not doing any of that.

In fact, he’s acting kind of aloof.  It’s almost as if he doesn’t care…at all.

He’s acting completely opposite of how you want him to act.  Sure, he might eventually realize he made a mistake.  He might date someone else only to realize you were the best thing to ever happen to him.  He might one day feel the remorse you want him to feel, but right now, you’re getting none of that.  (Hint: Use this to turn the tables and get him desperately craving you again).

Why not?  Why isn’t he begging you to take him back?

There are two main reasons.  We’ll call them pride and confirmation bias.

First, let’s talk about pride.  When it comes to breakups, no one wants to lose face, eat crow, and admit they were wrong about leaving.  A man’s ego simply won’t let him do that directly 99% of the time.

So you’re not likely to get some grand gesture like you see in the movies where he comes over to your apartment, stands outside your window, plays the most beautiful love song you’ve ever heard on his guitar, and desperately begs you to take him back.

Deep down that might be what you’re hoping for.  In some way, you probably want to “punish” him for dumping and hurting you.  But expecting those things to happen isn’t going to get him to come back to you.

As relationship author Elizabeth Stone says, “Drop the fantasy about what MIGHT happen between the two of you and embrace the reality that when/if they return, it’s more likely to sound like a whimper than a roar, even if they SHOULD apologize because they smashed your heart like a piñata at a 7 year old’s birthday party.”

Next, let’s talk about confirmation bias.  Basically confirmation bias means once you believe something is true, you’ll look around to find more evidence that confirms you are right.

For example, if you suspect your boyfriend is cheating on you and he comes home late from work, you might use that as another sign he’s messing around behind your back.  In reality, he probably just had to work late, but your mind is biased toward confirming what you believe to be true.

In terms of a breakup, the person who did the dumping (in this case, your boyfriend) will look for reasons to confirm he made the right decision.  So if you act nasty toward him or if he tries to apologize and you slam the door in his face because his gesture wasn’t grand enough, then it only confirms leaving you was the right decision.

You have to be really careful in this regard if you want your ex back.  If you want him to change his mind and come back to you, then you can’t continue to do and say things that only reinforce his decision to leave you.

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Risk Factors For Diabetes – What You Should Know About Type 1, Type 2, And Gestational Diabetes

There are three specific forms of diabetes: type 1, type 2, and gestational diabetes. With each type, your body can’t use insulin properly or, in some cases, can’t produce it at all. The end result is high blood sugar.

Diabetes is quite common, but many people don’t understand why they have it. Each form, while having similar symptoms, usually has various risk factors. If you’re concerned about developing the condition or are curious why you have it, read through the following risk factors for diabetes.

Type 1

Type 1 diabetes is usually detected in childhood, and it occurs because your body stops creating insulin altogether. This is a lifelong diagnosis, unlike other forms of diabetes which can be reversed. The risk factors for type 1 diabetes are usually family history, problems with the pancreas, or an infection or illness.

Usually, people with type 1 diabetes also have relatives with the condition. If you have an immediate relative with diabetes (mother, father, sibling), it’s worth getting tested for type 1 diabetes. This can be done through a blood test.

If you’ve had some kind of disease of the pancreas, like pancreatitis or pancreatic cancer, the likelihood the pancreas stops producing insulin is higher. This means you are at greater risk of developing type 1 diabetes.

Lastly, some infections or illnesses can attack the pancreas and damage it. As mentioned above, that damage can affect the organ’s ability to produce insulin and can result in diabetes.

Type 2

In type 2 diabetes, your body still produces insulin, but it doesn’t produce enough or it doesn’t use it properly. This can happen at any point in your life, unlike type 1, which is usually detected in childhood. When it comes to type 2, the risk factors for diabetes are greater than those for type 1.

According to research, being overweight or obese is one of the top risk factors for developing type 2 diabetes. A naturally occurring glucose intolerance or insulin resistance can also be a risk factor.  High blood pressure has also been associated with the development of type 2 diabetes, as have high levels of triglycerides and low levels of HDL cholesterol.

Women with polycystic ovary syndrome, people over the age of 45, and people of Hispanic, African-American, Pacific Islander, Asian-American, or Native American descent are considered to be at a greater risk for type 2 diabetes. Family history, a sedentary lifestyle, and a history of gestational diabetes are also risk factors for type 2 diabetes.

Gestational Diabetes

The third type of diabetes is gestational diabetes. This type only affects pregnant women, and it happens when high blood sugar from the mother causes a spike in the fetus’s blood sugar. This causes development and growth problems with the fetus when left untreated.

The risk factors for gestational diabetes are obesity, glucose intolerance, family history of the condition, and your age.

If you’re concerned you may have some of the risk factors for diabetes, there are steps you can take to avoid or delay the onset of the condition. These include maintaining a healthy weight, exercising regularly, eating a proper diet, and managing your blood pressure.

If you want step-by-step guidance on how to overcome diabetes, programs like the Diabetes Destroyer can help. Those interested can read an excellent review of the Diabetes Destroyer program here ==>

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Using The Language Of Desire To Tap Into The Sexual Desires Of Men

What men desire and what women think men desire are often two very different things. In order to achieve any type of sexual harmony, men and women must both be in one accord.

Below we explore five sexual desires men have as researched by Dr. Sandor Gardos, a Ph.D. recipient and founder of, Gloria Brame, a sex therapist from Georgia, and Bob Berkowitz, author of the Art of the Quickie.

According to Dr. Gloria Brame, the first desire men have is they want women to sexually stimulate themselves. It is not a woman’s job to turn a man on. Likewise, it is not a man’s duty to arouse a woman.

Dr. Brame believes women must arouse themselves in order to have a meaningful sexual encounter. As a woman, it’s also perfectly normal and acceptable to fantasize about being with other men.

The second desire men have is they want pleasurable sex. Dr. Gardos points out how sexual encounters are rarely as smooth as they appear in Hollywood films. The important thing is to overcome the awkward moments and still enjoy one another. Life is not perfect, and it’s important for both partners to realize this.

The third sexual desire men have is they want women to let them know what turns them on. A great way to do this is through dirty talk, and there’s no better dirty talking guide for women than Felicity Keith’s Language of Desire which contains more than 30 actionable techniques. Learn about it here:

Along with dirty talk, Dr. Gardos explains that men love when women guide them during sex without being snippy about it. Dr. Brame follows up the notion by stating that women should tell their men when they are doing something well. Be specific on the types of foreplay you want your man to engage in.

The fourth desire men have in the bedroom is they want to watch a woman pleasure herself. Watching can mean a variety of things, but Dr. Berkowitz suggests remaining clothed as this leaves certain things to a man’s imagination and builds anticipation for what is to follow.

The fifth sexual desire men have is they want women to be naughty. According to Dr. Brame, women are often afraid of shedding their good girl image. Therefore, they are less likely to do anything that might be conceived as naughty, kinky, bizarre, or “slutty”.

However, this is not what men want. Men want to see women cut loose and release their inner sexual animal without holding back. However, many men don’t want to offend a woman, so they often don’t ask.

Shedding your good girl image in the privacy of your own bedroom allows both partners to explore unknown territory and enjoy new sexual experiences and fantasies together.

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What To Say To A Woman You Want To Date

What a man says to a girl he likes is a very important decider on whether he gets to date her or not. Fittingly, it is a source of a lot of head scratching among men, but one that is easily remedied by improving your communication and seduction skills through a program like the Girlfriend Activation System (GFAS).

The key to a successful conversation is maintaining continuity and ensuring it flows deeper towards trust and complete self-exposure. The following tips can help you achieve this.

1. Focus on one topic at a time and lead the flow of conversation to deeper levels

Many men fail at talking to women by flip flopping too quickly between topics. This denies them the opportunity to take the conversation to a deeper level.

You should have a catalog of topics you think would be of interest to her. If she seems to enjoy a particular topic, try to keep it running for a long time and navigate it in such a way that it gets more personal and fun.

2. Ask questions

Asking questions gets a woman to talk about herself and keeps you from dominating the conversation. Show interest by asking questions about her background, her work, passions etc.

If she shares a bad experience that happened to her in the past, show compassion by listening intently and give her a hug or use the opportunity to make other physical contact . Asking questions will also get her to expose her true self which can help you qualify the kind of person she is so you know if she’s really the type of woman you want to date.

3. Show appreciation

What you say to a woman you want to date should always include appreciation. Women thrive off appreciation as much as men thrive off admiration. Playing this card can score you big points with her. When you get together, mention being excited to see her, and at least once during the date mention you enjoy spending time with her.

Compliments are an effective way to get women to like you, but do not lean too much towards her physical attributes. After you tell her she looks great, the rest of your compliments should focus on aspects of her personality rather than her looks.

If it feels like you’re stretching to give her a genuine compliment, then she’s probably not the right girl for you.

4. Keep it light and fun

They say, “Girls just wanna have fun” and it’s true. To avoid being lumped into the lame and boring category, avoid talking about serious topics such as politics and religion.
Instead, playfully tease her and make her laugh and she will want more and more of you. A little sex talk also helps in spicing things up a bit, but you should first test the waters to see how she responds. Don’t push the issue if she seems uncomfortable.

Learning what to say to a woman you want to date sometimes involves walking a fine line with your communication. Avoid overstepping the boundary between teasing and insulting. This is a very common mistake men make when talking to women. If it happens, apologize for the goof and go back to safer subjects.

5. Be direct

Sometimes, telling a girl exactly what you want is the best way to move the relationship to the next level. It not only keeps you from wasting time on a woman who’s not interested, but it also shows confidence, leadership, and ambition to go after what you want. Most women find those traits extremely attractive in a man.

The key here is to read her signs correctly, so you know when to make your move and escalate the relationship.